I love the “empty boat” philosophy from the 4th century BCE Taoist Chang-tzu.

[!quote] A man’s riding his boat in a river. Suddenly another boat strikes his own–but there’s nobody in the other boat. It’s an Empty Boat. The man doesn’t get irritated or bewildered; he critically assesses the situation and decides how to move around the Empty Boat and get across the river. But if there were somebody in the boat–well, then the man becomes overcome with anger. He shouts and curses, pinning blame on his assailant, demanding payments and solutions.

Do we get mad when an empty boat runs into ours? No because there’s no one to blame. Of course the temptation is to ascribe blame. To assume someone is wronging you, which leads to resentment which eats you from the inside out. An empty boat is just that - empty, intentionless. There’s no one to blame. Life is full of empty boats. Relax.